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On Reading for Men: Asked and Answered

Do you read for dudes?

The truth? Yes, but it wasn’t until the last month or so that people who identified as men began to regularly request Ruby Intuition readings. So why now? Maybe because the destabilization of Month 6 of Covid and Year 3 of Trump’s Reign is hitting guys (cis and trans) especially hard. Even in 2020, many are conditioned to feel worthy only when they’re financially and emotionally supporting others—or at least when they can contain their big emotions no matter how lost they feel.

In my practice I am bearing witness to men who feel such overwhelm that—well, that they’re willing to come see me. So what do I offer? Compassionate, comprehensive clarity about the future as well as the past, not to mention the culturally elusive value of divine masculinity, which entails solicitous action and selfless service, and is just as essential as divine femininity/ (Integrated people channel both.) The good news? In the long run, this upheaval will pave the way for healthier relationships and healthier hearts.

There’s a reason heart attacks fell more men.

In the meantime, I am deeply honored by the beautiful vulnerability I am experiencing in all my clients. As Alice Walker has so rightfully said: “The way forward is with a broken heart.”

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A Few Notes on Middle Age and Sex

Sophia Loren at age 46

I don’t mind middle age, but I mind everyone’s archaic attitudes about it, especially when it comes to attractiveness.

The truth—rarely uttered, but unavoidably true—is that we are young for a far shorter time than we are not, and almost without exception we are assholes during this very fleeting period.

Which is all to say: I refuse to smile when told, “Wow, you don’t look 50,” as if it’s the ultimate compliment. I refuse to play nice when I’m called a cougar for snogging a 25-year-old. And I really refuse to make self-deprecating jokes about my age the way others do, perhaps because they have children so are inured to insults about their age. America so fetishizes youth—to our peril, since the result is a bunch of maskless bozos who insist on civil liberties without civic responsibility—that it licenses a toxic desexualization of the not-young, especially of women. Put simply, I reject the rejection. Continue Reading →

Tarot Lesson: The Hermit Card

In every one of my readings over the last week, I have drawn the Hermit. Typically this card is met by a scowl or a sigh from clients, and I understand why. Just its name evokes an enforced period of isolation, even a banishment—a feeling that’s all too familiar by Month 6 of Quarantime. But while few want the Hermit in the position of, say, future love, it generally receives as unfair a rap as Virgo, the sign it represents.

Really, both represent the divine inner teacher. Yes, to connect to such an energy we must withdraw from quotidian life—but only so we can activate our unique wisdom, the voice we can’t hear until all other chatter and clatter subsides. I believe the reason this card has been so prevalent is that the world has finally slowed down enough for us to hear and heed our highest selves, what some call the soul. Thus we are finally drawing on timeless resources that were not valued in our pre-Covid culture—namely, patience, wisdom (rather than wits), and universal compassion. So while my clients groan, I smile. And then I explain. Slowly….

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"All, everything I understand, I understand only because I love."
― Leo Tolstoy