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Just a Very Virgo Season Blurt

You know what’s not discussed enough? Women who don’t demand fair wages because they live off their partners or inherited wealth. It is a very problematic issue through a feminist lens, yet often not broached because there are so many taboos around talking about money and class, and because self-esteem is so tied to salary.

Women who work for less than they should set a precedent–perpetuate one, really–that makes it a lot harder for the rest of us who demand equal pay. They reinforce the assumption that women’s work need not be taken seriously. And they disrespect all the women who fought long and hard for the Equal Pay Act.

This is not just a political issue. I see this as a spiritual issue, because energy that is not adequately replenished disrupts the order of everything. Work must be honored–and in a capitalist society, adequate financial compensation is an essential expression of that honor.

It’s amazing this issue still surfaces so frequently. It is an example of something else that doesn’t get discussed enough: toxic femininity.*

*Dudes, I am no more interested in you taking up this phrase than I am accepting of how you misapply “Karen” as an all-purpose term to write off women. Redirect that impulse into developing your divine masculinity.

Virgo Season Begins, You’re Welcome

Virgo season began last night, and we should all be glad about that. This sign often gets dismissed as anal and controlling, even cheap, Really, Virgos are the truest healers of the zodiac and some of the most extraordinary and resourceful creatives. Virgos understand that Goddess is in the details and that love is a verb. Sure, sometimes they don’t see the forest for the trees but they actually get the job done, son. More than that, they know practical magic is rooted in working problems—in work, period–and that actions speak louder than words. So while I enjoy the pleasures and grand scale of Leo season—who doesn’t?—I am always grateful for Virgo’s diligence as summer draws to a close. Her ethos of mindful economy, of service privileged over credit, and of heart over ego is one our whole country needs. To be of good use is a tremendous honor, and Virgo reminds us of this joy.

Virgo Season always emphasizes personal callings and practical magic; to activate yours, book a reading for yourself or loved one through biolink. For personally tailored daily guidance, get your Whether Report. Pictured here: Gene Kelly, born on this day 111 years ago and a poster boy for hard-working genius.

There’s No Pleasing Daddy

This was a fairly bogus day–a lot of mansplaining/scolding in my personal life. But I was very happy to learn that Jamie Spears is finally stepping down as conservator of his daughter, though his announced “choice” reads as very Cuomo–AKA an attempt to control the when-and-how now that the writing is already on the wall.

It may seem silly to focus on anything tabloid-related, but the story of Britney Spears’ conservatorship is a devastating model of how patriarchy infects every aspect of US life, from government to nuclear family. Essentially it underscores that, as a woman, you can be a multimillion-dollar enterprise, and still wield no control over your life.

For anyone with shitty parents, Britney Spears’ story is a worst-case scenario–one in which your abusers benefit from your ability to transcend their abuse while they abuse you some more. No parent should be granted complete control of their adult child’s life, especially if they financially benefit from that control. Family dysfunction is usually a contributor in emotional decompensation, so reenacting childhood trauma by reestablishing parental control is counter-intuitive–“criminal,” to quote Britney herself. Continue Reading →

"All, everything I understand, I understand only because I love."
― Leo Tolstoy