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How to Outfox a Wolf Moon Eclipse

January 10, 2020 in Astro Matters, Book Matters, Essays, Queer Matters, Ruby Intuition, Spirit Matters

Happy wolf moon eclipse!

As promised, I’ve been busy finishing not one but two writing projects. “Getting her done, son,” as a lover calls getting busy in all capacities. I’m not implying I’ve been getting laid left and right–just that I’ve been harnessing Saturn’s taskmaster drive to make things right and true. Maybe you have too? Capricorn season is all about hitting the new-year ground running.

But if you’ve been noticing things have been screwy over the last week, you’re not the one with the screw loose. It’s because at exactly 2:21 p.m. today the Sun in Capricorn faces off with a full moon in Cancer (also known as the Wolf Moon) to form a lunar eclipse that is some powerful shit. We’ve already been feeling the effects of homebody Crab in her home base of the moon as she crosses swords with tough-love Cappie: a lot of boundary-explosions and boundary-setting. I myself spent a day in traffic court on Tuesday as a result of last summer’s speeding ticket.

Truth and consequences galore!

Any flaw in the love-and-money works is coming up to be fixed because tonight’s lunar eclipse marks the end of a story that began with July 2018’s new super moon in Cancer. What transactional dynamics masquerading as unconditional love have you been prodded to re-evaluate during this period? Especially with Saturn and “the great exposer” Pluto opposing this eclipse point, tonight’s full moon reveals and releases the trades we make in order to bask in “stability” or “power” (quotation marks necessary).

Consider this explosion to be like the ultimate facial–hideous in the short-term, gorgeous in the long haul.

So tonight ask yourself: How do I sell myself out? How do I try to control others to feel safe? Even if you don’t ask yourself, tonight the heavens are going to show you. So howl one relationship, habit, or gig that comes at too high a price. This lupine lunar eclipse is feral, she doesn’t mind. Then take a salt bath and light your cauldron or candle to release its residue. Just remember–always!–to hydrate!

For an ally in this trek from the overfamiliar to the deliciously, free, schedule a Ruby Intuition reading. Get in touch!

Permissions Denied, Pigeons Assigned

January 2, 2020 in Age Matters, Book Matters, Cat Lady Matters, Church Matters, City Matters, Essays, Feminist Matters, Ruby Intuition, Spirit Matters

Piccione, this morning you left your house without a bra?

This was yesterday, when everyone had begun drifting back from wherever people go when they leave NYC over the holidays. I was nursing an americano, waiting for some friends visiting from out of town.

For a full week, the coffee shop next door—the ones run by the wily Italians—had been closed. In fact, the whole neighborhood had been closed because all of the planet had been magically out of time.

I’d gotten a lot done.

But, I am sorry to report, my unconscious also had erected one last roadblock before this wretched, wonderful year could draw to a close.

This roadblock was a doozy.

It began a few days before Christmas, when my Macbook Pro’s operating system began devouring itself, which impacted everything connected to my Apple ID across all my devices, everything that required–and o the irony is rich if not sweet–permissions.

Essentially, I was being denied access to my own identity. At first I was only blocked from features that were convenient but unessential: Apple calendars, reminders, and notes that I accessed across all my devices. Then passwords stored in my iCloud keychain began to disappear, which is when I realized that all these years I’d thought I was being smart and responsible by using Apple-suggested passwords, I was really being stupid as a heart attack. Because these passwords were so complex that I had no way to resuscitate them using anything as pedestrian as, say, human memory. Continue Reading →

The Shining Path of One’s Own Words

December 27, 2019 in Age Matters, Book Matters, City Matters, Essays, Ruby Intuition, Spirit Matters

Space Crone: Holiday Edition

“No more equivocating,” said Jennifer when I left her office yesterday. She almost didn’t need to say it aloud except, of course, she did.

Since my back returned to seminormal—since the last great road block of the Year of 12 Novembers was finally removed—I have been doing my very best to finish this book.

Or should I say: this fucking book.

For two and a half years, this bildungsrosman has been my constant companion. My greatest dream, my greatest albatross, my  frenemy. I’ve gone broke, I’ve broken my body, I’ve broken my heart.

A few times, actually.

And still the first draft isn’t done.

The funny thing is, I’m looking forward to editing this behemoth. I always say that I write like a pagan and edit like a Jew, and though it’s a suspiciously catchy phrase, it’s also true. Mostly. But I haven’t been writing this book like a pagan. I’ve been writing it like a flat-out witch-—channeling people I purposefully haven’t seen in years, conjuring  the past in the present, re-experiencing everything in the most messed-up method writer sort of way.

It’s worn me down to a nub. Really, I’m a nub of a space crone.

But though I’ve been conspicuously silent here over the last few weeks, it hasn’t been a terrible holiday season. Oh, I’ve made some mistakes–whoever thinks you automatically get smarter as you age really isn’t getting smarter—but nothing permanently damning.

I actually like the holidays—the parties, pine, sense of being outside of linear time. Most years I plan local adventures—old films on big screens and trips to the mermaid woods. But this season has been different because I’ve understood that for my sanity and fundamental survival I must complete a first draft by my personal new year, which is January 19 (my birthday).

Thus during the day I’ve written written written and at night have climbed into a kairos of my devise–a front-room tesseract in reds and purples, birds and candles, offline music and books and film. I’ve turned the pages of Gamache (my favorite sad-eyed and soul-deep Canadian detective) and dropped the plainchant of Nina and monks on the turntable and turned on to A Christmas Tale, Armand Deplechin’s neurotic, erotic paean to love lost and barely found.

Its deep skepticism of blood bonds and Deneuve’s red-lipped what-the-fuckery hitting the spot something fierce.

My sense is I can pull off this deadline if I stop whatever equivocating I’m still doing and accept the loneliness completion will bring. No more misbegotten love affairs, no more ill-advised distractions, no electricity period save true friends of my heart and the shine of these words as they appear one after another on this path into a wickedly enchanted forest. (Reading for people also is connecting me to that collective divine.) So in the wake of winter solstice and solar eclipse, I’m asking my greatest ally

here, where she’ll be held most accountable—

and I’m asking because god knows she doesn’t like to be told anything–

Well. I’m asking myself to stop equivocating.

From my Mary-loving Jewish pagan hearth, I send all the love in my heart to light these longest nights. We are all, each of us, blessed, and it has been an honor to bask in your shine.

No sleep til draft 1 is done, kittens. See you on the other side!

"All, everything I understand, I understand only because I love."
― Leo Tolstoy